This virtual support group is created for graduate students who struggle with inner critical narratives of “not good enough.”  As part of this process, you will learn to identify your inner critic or inner algorithms. We take a mindful self-compassion approach and learn about how your nervous system is responding to internal fears and threats and how to cope effectively.

It’s not your fault that you’re experiencing these thoughts and emotions! We are built to react in ways that serve self-preservation/protection and belonging. When you notice your algorithms and little inner critics roaming around, you can proactively transform the narratives in beneficial ways.  Being with others is a great way to learn and see that you are not alone.

 This confidential group addresses inner algorithms such as:

• Feeling like an imposter (Others will find out I’m not smart, talented or deserving.)
• Fear of failure (Failure is not an option for me.)
• Rejection sensitivity (I’m not good enough.)
• Disapproving and judging my own mistakes (I’m flawed/damaged.)
• Comparing self to others (I can’t ever be like others. I don't have what it takes.)
• Unrealistic ideals (I have to be perfect, awesome, brilliant, exceptional.)
• Self-critical (There is always room for improvement.)
• Fixation on flaws (I can only see what is wrong rather than on what’s right.)
• Self-doubt and double checking (I have to make sure I didn't miss a mistake.)
• Fragile self-esteem (My self-worth is based on what others think of me.)
• Feel alone, isolated and self-blaming when mistakes happen (It’s my fault.)

The approach I take involves the following steps that will be the basis for each week’s discussion.

E: Embody the Present Moment (body awareness, listening to body, understanding nervous system)

V: Validate Feelings (recognize thoughts, emotions, sensations as normal response to stress)

O: Open Your Heart (to inner parts, name them, befriend them, self-compassion education)

L: Love Your Inner Critic (resistance to self-compassion and how to continually practice courage, compassion, connection)

V: Making a Vow (committing to change; putting in joyful effort, identifying values, discovering purpose)

E: Get Energized (knowing how to keep balance and maintain harmony)

In essence these steps help you evolve your nervous system, transform the inner algorithms, and release the inner critics so they can create, play and live with ease and kindness.

Summer series (Tues 4pm): June 18 - July 23

If you are interested, please email the group leader directly and include your Student ID number, which allows CAMHS to securely message the workshop/group zoom link.

Contact Tara Cousineau, PhD, tcousineau@huhs.harvard.edu

Open to all registered Harvard students (graduates) who have paid the 2023-2024 Student Health Fee.